Thorns or Roses?

01/10/2020 – QUOTE OF THE WEEK:

“You complain about seeing thorny rose bushes; Me, I rejoice and give thanks to the gods thorns have roses.”

This quote has been credited to many: Alphonse Karr 1835; Abraham Lincoln 1850; Roe Fulkerson 1929; many others and especially; Anonymous.

Interesting, too, is that over the course of 185 years wording changed from thanking “the gods”, “God”, and “nature” to no one or thing. That is until 1964, when a columnist credited the saying to J. Kenfield Morley – “You can complain because rose bushes have thorns or rejoice that thorn bushes have roses.”

Frankly, it didn’t matter who or what was responsible for the thorns or the rose. When you read it and visualized, which did you see first: thorn or rose?

I grew a beautiful rose garden full of various heirloom roses. Did they have thorns? Oh, yes. Were the roses beautiful? Oh, yes. Did they have romantic and amazing fragrances? Absolutely. Even after the thorns pricked through my rose garden gloves and drew blood, did I mind? Yes. Then I arranged them in a plain, clear glass vase and sat them on a table in my home. At that moment I forgot they had wounded me. Their beauty brightened the room from every angle and their mingled sweet fragrances lingered for days throughout the house and became permanently etched in my senses.

My point is that if I compare thorns to pessimism and roses to optimism then the quote doesn’t seem to leave room for compromise, but to me it does. It doesn’t have to be all of one or the other. It can be both. I can’t tell you how many times, I’ve made plans (bush) when part of it hurt (thorn) and the other part made me feel wonderful (rose).

I likely lessened my bodily damage because of the rose garden gloves since they reached from my finger tips to my elbow. How then did I get pricked? The glove part was made of kid leather. From the wrist to my elbow was a sleeve of canvas and vinyl. I simply forgot or didn’t consider that some thorns are larger and sharper than others, or that some of the bushes act like prehistoric carnivores. Had I thought about it, I could have pursued my prey safely by wearing a long sleeve shirt, the rose gloves, and a rose stem cleaner/thorn stripper. My desire for the roses was so great I didn’t prepare and therefore got pricked by thorns. I could’ve made the entire experience blissfully rosy (sorry, but I couldn’t resist) by advanced preparation and thought.

The next time you’re made aware of a situation, please consider your objective and all aspects — the bad and the good. Please don’t get me wrong. Not every situation is void of thorns no matter how much you prepare. But, if you know in advance, why not try to lessen your pain. The result is a beautiful rose, named Optimism.

There are only a few housekeeping rules: BE KIND TO YOURSELF – BE KIND TO OTHERS – DON’T BE SNARKY OR RUDE (Save those attitudes for blog sites that wallow in self-pity and pessimism.)

Life is too short to make yourself miserable.

Thank you for stopping by. I look forward to hearing from you!


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